Derasha 5 on Bereishis 3:16

TT #139 · Parashas Bereishis · Third Aliyah · Passuk 16

Complete Passuk

אֶֽל־הָאִשָּׁ֣ה אָמַ֗ר הַרְבָּ֤ה אַרְבֶּה֙ עִצְּבוֹנֵ֣ךְ וְהֵֽרֹנֵ֔ךְ בְּעֶ֖צֶב תֵּֽלְדִ֣י בָנִ֑ים וְאֶל־אִישֵׁךְ֙ תְּשׁ֣וּקָתֵ֔ךְ וְה֖וּא יִמְשׇׁל־בָּֽךְ׃

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Source Citation

TT points to Eruvin 100b (verified).

E-Daf image (Eruvin 100b)

Core Text

Core Textוְהוּא יִמְשׇׁל בָּךְ — מְלַמֵּד שֶׁהָאִשָּׁה תּוֹבַעַת בַּלֵּב וְהָאִישׁ תּוֹבֵעַ בַּפֶּה, וְזוֹ הִיא מִדָּה טוֹבָה בַּנָּשִׁים.
English of Core Text: “And he shall rule over you” — this teaches that the woman requests in her heart and the man requests with his mouth; and this is a good quality in women.
On the daf / in context: The “rule” is read as a difference in the manner of expressing desire: women are more reserved, which the Gemara praises.
Type of Learning: Custom (manner of expressing desire)
What Is Learned: A woman expresses desire inwardly while a man does so verbally; the restraint is regarded as a positive trait.